Grief is unique for every individual, to the point that no one can truly define it, nor can the other person understand it. It is such a natural response to loss. You can rarely do anything about it. You have to deal with it somehow or the other. Sometimes, a particular incident can make you feel so overwhelmed that you feel out of breath. When that happens, you may feel like you are drowning, and the more you try to fight it, the more that loss will engulf you.
One of the most important things you can do while coping with grief is to let it wash over you. Let yourself feel. The importance of this cannot be emphasized enough. Letting yourself process those feelings is allowing yourself to move forward, allowing your brain and your heart to accept what is going on slowly. If you don’t let yourself feel, you will just be burying those feelings to the point where you will let them out all at once, which is not good for anyone. Not for you and not for the person you are pouring all your feelings into. It is just not fair. This is one of the major reasons why slowly letting yourself go through the different stages of grief is one of the hardest yet most important steps you can take.